1. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  2. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  3. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  4. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  5. Round up of initiatives
  6. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  7. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  8. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  9. DV orders at all-time high
  10. Campaign Wins Gold
  11. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  12. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  13. OBEs for Encompass couple
  14. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  15. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  16. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  17. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  18. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  19. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  20. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  21. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  22. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  23. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  24. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  25. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  26. DA paid leave gains traction
  27. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  28. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  29. Government pledges support for male victims
  30. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  31. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  32. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  33. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  34. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  35. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  36. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  37. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  38. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  39. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  40. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  41. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  42. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  43. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  44. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  45. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  46. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  47. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  48. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  49. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  50. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  51. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  52. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  53. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  54. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  55. Southwark secures first accreditation
  56. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  57. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  58. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  59. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  60. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  61. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  62. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  63. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  64. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  65. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  66. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  67. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  68. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  69. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  70. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  71. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  72. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  73. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  74. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  75. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  76. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  77. Universal credit criticised
  78. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  79. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  80. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  81. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  82. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  83. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  84. Caledonian System extended
  85. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  86. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  87. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  88. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  89. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  90. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  91. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  92. Public to have say on new legislation
  93. Leicestershire Police
  94. Why do I work for NCDV?
  95. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  96. News in Brief
  97. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  98. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  99. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  100. Grey’s Anatomy
  101. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  102. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  103. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  104. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  2. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  3. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  4. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  5. Round up of initiatives
  6. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  7. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  8. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  9. DV orders at all-time high
  10. Campaign Wins Gold
  11. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  12. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  13. OBEs for Encompass couple
  14. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  15. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  16. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  17. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  18. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  19. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  20. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  21. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  22. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  23. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  24. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  25. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  26. DA paid leave gains traction
  27. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  28. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  29. Government pledges support for male victims
  30. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  31. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  32. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  33. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  34. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  35. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  36. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  37. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  38. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  39. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  40. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  41. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  42. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  43. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  44. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  45. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  46. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  47. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  48. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  49. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  50. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  51. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  52. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  53. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  54. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  55. Southwark secures first accreditation
  56. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  57. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  58. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  59. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  60. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  61. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  62. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  63. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  64. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  65. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  66. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  67. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  68. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  69. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  70. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  71. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  72. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  73. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  74. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  75. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  76. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  77. Universal credit criticised
  78. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  79. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  80. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  81. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  82. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  83. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  84. Caledonian System extended
  85. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  86. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  87. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  88. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  89. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  90. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  91. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  92. Public to have say on new legislation
  93. Leicestershire Police
  94. Why do I work for NCDV?
  95. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  96. News in Brief
  97. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  98. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  99. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  100. Grey’s Anatomy
  101. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  102. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  103. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  104. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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