1. NCDV at London Assembly Forum
  2. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  3. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  4. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  5. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  6. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  7. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  8. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  9. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  10. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  11. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  12. Johnson promises new DA bill
  13. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  14. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  15. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  16. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  17. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  18. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  19. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  20. Round up of initiatives
  21. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  22. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  23. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  24. DV orders at all-time high
  25. Campaign Wins Gold
  26. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  27. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  28. OBEs for Encompass couple
  29. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  30. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  31. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  32. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  33. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  34. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  35. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  36. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  37. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  38. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  39. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  40. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  41. DA paid leave gains traction
  42. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  43. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  44. Government pledges support for male victims
  45. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  46. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  47. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  48. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  49. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  50. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  51. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  52. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  53. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  54. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  55. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  56. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  57. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  58. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  59. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  60. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  61. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  62. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  63. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  64. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  65. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  66. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  67. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  68. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  69. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  70. Southwark secures first accreditation
  71. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  72. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  73. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  74. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  75. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  76. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  77. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  78. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  79. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  80. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  81. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  82. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  83. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  84. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  85. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  86. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  87. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  88. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  89. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  90. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  91. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  92. Universal credit criticised
  93. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  94. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  95. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  96. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  97. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  98. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  99. Caledonian System extended
  100. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  101. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  102. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  103. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  104. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  105. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  106. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  107. Public to have say on new legislation
  108. Leicestershire Police
  109. Why do I work for NCDV?
  110. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  111. News in Brief
  112. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  113. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  114. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  115. Grey’s Anatomy
  116. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  117. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  118. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  119. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Friday, November 22, 2019
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. NCDV at London Assembly Forum
  2. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  3. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  4. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  5. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  6. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  7. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  8. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  9. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  10. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  11. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  12. Johnson promises new DA bill
  13. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  14. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  15. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  16. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  17. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  18. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  19. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  20. Round up of initiatives
  21. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  22. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  23. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  24. DV orders at all-time high
  25. Campaign Wins Gold
  26. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  27. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  28. OBEs for Encompass couple
  29. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  30. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  31. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  32. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  33. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  34. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  35. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  36. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  37. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  38. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  39. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  40. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  41. DA paid leave gains traction
  42. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  43. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  44. Government pledges support for male victims
  45. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  46. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  47. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  48. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  49. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  50. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  51. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  52. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  53. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  54. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  55. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  56. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  57. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  58. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  59. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  60. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  61. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  62. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  63. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  64. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  65. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  66. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  67. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  68. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  69. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  70. Southwark secures first accreditation
  71. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  72. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  73. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  74. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  75. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  76. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  77. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  78. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  79. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  80. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  81. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  82. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  83. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  84. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  85. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  86. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  87. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  88. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  89. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  90. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  91. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  92. Universal credit criticised
  93. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  94. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  95. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  96. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  97. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  98. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  99. Caledonian System extended
  100. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  101. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  102. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  103. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  104. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  105. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  106. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  107. Public to have say on new legislation
  108. Leicestershire Police
  109. Why do I work for NCDV?
  110. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  111. News in Brief
  112. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  113. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  114. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  115. Grey’s Anatomy
  116. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  117. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  118. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  119. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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