1. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  2. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  3. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  4. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  5. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  6. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  7. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  8. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  9. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  10. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  11. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  12. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  13. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  14. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  15. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  16. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  17. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  18. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  19. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  20. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  21. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  22. Universal credit criticised
  23. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  24. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  25. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  26. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  27. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  28. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  29. Caledonian System extended
  30. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  31. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  32. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  33. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  34. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  35. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  36. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  37. Public to have say on new legislation
  38. Leicestershire Police
  39. Why do I work for NCDV?
  40. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  41. News in Brief
  42. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  43. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  44. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  45. Grey’s Anatomy
  46. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  47. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  48. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  49. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Monday, October 15, 2018
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  2. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  3. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  4. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  5. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  6. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  7. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  8. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  9. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  10. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  11. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  12. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  13. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  14. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  15. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  16. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  17. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  18. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  19. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  20. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  21. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  22. Universal credit criticised
  23. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  24. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  25. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  26. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  27. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  28. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  29. Caledonian System extended
  30. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  31. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  32. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  33. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  34. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  35. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  36. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  37. Public to have say on new legislation
  38. Leicestershire Police
  39. Why do I work for NCDV?
  40. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  41. News in Brief
  42. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  43. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  44. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  45. Grey’s Anatomy
  46. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  47. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  48. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  49. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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