1. Call made for perpetrator strategy
  2. Majority of women seeking refuge turned away, survey shows
  3. Government boosts support for refuges
  4. Marked rise in Northern Ireland’s DA cases in festive period
  5. NCDV offers to assist police with non-DA protection orders
  6. Refuge highlights extent of tech abuse
  7. Council to give paid leave to staff suffering DA
  8. Greater range professionals being trained to spot DA
  9. DA crime rises by quarter
  10. Record number of domestic violence remedy orders
  11. Special DA service launched in Cleveland
  12. UK’s first hub for women DV victims opens
  13. International: better protection on way for DV survivors in Ireland
  14. Read our CEO’s blogs
  15. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  16. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  17. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  18. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  19. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  20. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  21. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  22. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  23. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  24. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  25. Johnson promises new DA bill
  26. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  27. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  28. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  29. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  30. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  31. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  32. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  33. Round up of initiatives
  34. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  35. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  36. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  37. DV orders at all-time high
  38. Campaign Wins Gold
  39. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  40. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  41. OBEs for Encompass couple
  42. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  43. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  44. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  45. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  46. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  47. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  48. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  49. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  50. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  51. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  52. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  53. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  54. DA paid leave gains traction
  55. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  56. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  57. Government pledges support for male victims
  58. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  59. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  60. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  61. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  62. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  63. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  64. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  65. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  66. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  67. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  68. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  69. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  70. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  71. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  72. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  73. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  74. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  75. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  76. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  77. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  78. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  79. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  80. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  81. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  82. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  83. Southwark secures first accreditation
  84. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  85. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  86. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  87. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  88. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  89. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  90. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  91. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  92. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  93. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  94. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  95. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  96. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  97. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  98. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  99. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  100. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  101. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  102. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  103. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  104. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  105. Universal credit criticised
  106. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  107. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  108. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  109. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  110. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  111. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  112. Caledonian System extended
  113. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  114. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  115. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  116. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  117. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  118. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  119. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  120. Public to have say on new legislation
  121. Leicestershire Police
  122. Why do I work for NCDV?
  123. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  124. News in Brief
  125. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  126. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  127. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  128. Grey’s Anatomy
  129. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  130. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  131. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  132. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Wednesday, February 26, 2020
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. Call made for perpetrator strategy
  2. Majority of women seeking refuge turned away, survey shows
  3. Government boosts support for refuges
  4. Marked rise in Northern Ireland’s DA cases in festive period
  5. NCDV offers to assist police with non-DA protection orders
  6. Refuge highlights extent of tech abuse
  7. Council to give paid leave to staff suffering DA
  8. Greater range professionals being trained to spot DA
  9. DA crime rises by quarter
  10. Record number of domestic violence remedy orders
  11. Special DA service launched in Cleveland
  12. UK’s first hub for women DV victims opens
  13. International: better protection on way for DV survivors in Ireland
  14. Read our CEO’s blogs
  15. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  16. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  17. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  18. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  19. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  20. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  21. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  22. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  23. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  24. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  25. Johnson promises new DA bill
  26. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  27. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  28. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  29. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  30. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  31. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  32. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  33. Round up of initiatives
  34. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  35. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  36. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  37. DV orders at all-time high
  38. Campaign Wins Gold
  39. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  40. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  41. OBEs for Encompass couple
  42. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  43. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  44. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  45. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  46. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  47. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  48. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  49. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  50. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  51. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  52. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  53. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  54. DA paid leave gains traction
  55. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  56. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  57. Government pledges support for male victims
  58. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  59. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  60. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  61. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  62. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  63. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  64. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  65. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  66. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  67. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  68. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  69. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  70. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  71. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  72. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  73. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  74. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  75. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  76. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  77. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  78. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  79. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  80. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  81. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  82. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  83. Southwark secures first accreditation
  84. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  85. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  86. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  87. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  88. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  89. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  90. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  91. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  92. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  93. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  94. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  95. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  96. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  97. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  98. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  99. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  100. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  101. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  102. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  103. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  104. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  105. Universal credit criticised
  106. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  107. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  108. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  109. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  110. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  111. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  112. Caledonian System extended
  113. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  114. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  115. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  116. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  117. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  118. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  119. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  120. Public to have say on new legislation
  121. Leicestershire Police
  122. Why do I work for NCDV?
  123. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  124. News in Brief
  125. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  126. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  127. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  128. Grey’s Anatomy
  129. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  130. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  131. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  132. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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