1. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  2. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  3. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  4. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  5. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  6. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  7. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  8. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  9. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  10. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  11. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  12. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  13. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  14. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  15. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  16. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  17. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  18. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  19. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  20. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  21. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  22. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  23. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  24. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  25. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  26. Southwark secures first accreditation
  27. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  28. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  29. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  30. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  31. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  32. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  33. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  34. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  35. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  36. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  37. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  38. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  39. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  40. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  41. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  42. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  43. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  44. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  45. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  46. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  47. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  48. Universal credit criticised
  49. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  50. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  51. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  52. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  53. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  54. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  55. Caledonian System extended
  56. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  57. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  58. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  59. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  60. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  61. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  62. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  63. Public to have say on new legislation
  64. Leicestershire Police
  65. Why do I work for NCDV?
  66. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  67. News in Brief
  68. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  69. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  70. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  71. Grey’s Anatomy
  72. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  73. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  74. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  75. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Thursday, March 21, 2019
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  2. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  3. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  4. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  5. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  6. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  7. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  8. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  9. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  10. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  11. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  12. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  13. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  14. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  15. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  16. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  17. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  18. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  19. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  20. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  21. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  22. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  23. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  24. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  25. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  26. Southwark secures first accreditation
  27. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  28. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  29. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  30. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  31. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  32. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  33. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  34. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  35. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  36. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  37. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  38. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  39. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  40. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  41. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  42. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  43. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  44. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  45. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  46. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  47. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  48. Universal credit criticised
  49. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  50. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  51. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  52. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  53. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  54. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  55. Caledonian System extended
  56. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  57. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  58. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  59. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  60. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  61. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  62. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  63. Public to have say on new legislation
  64. Leicestershire Police
  65. Why do I work for NCDV?
  66. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  67. News in Brief
  68. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  69. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  70. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  71. Grey’s Anatomy
  72. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  73. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  74. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  75. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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