1. NCDV launch ‘Abusers Always Work From Home” campaign
  2. Government cash to help DA victims
  3. Cash help for child victims of DA from government
  4. Lockdown will have ‘devastating consequences for generation’ unless DA tackled
  5. Shops become haven from domestic abuse
  6. Police force works on better recognition of child-to-parent DA
  7. DA commissioner calls for post-lockdown preparations
  8. Increased use of domestic abuse helpline
  9. Police force introduces online reporting for domestic abuse
  10. Government boosts support to DA charities during coronavirus crisis
  11. DA victims ‘can escape during lockdown’
  12. CORONAVIRUS: NCDV Urges Courts to Bring Forward Online Court Order Plans Immediately
  13. DA worries surface amid Coronavirus crisis
  14. Improved Domestic Abuse Bill introduced
  15. Camilla calls for greater discussion of taboo subject
  16. BBFC amends warning for DA in films and TV
  17. CWJ submits super-complaint against police
  18. Call made for perpetrator strategy
  19. Majority of women seeking refuge turned away, survey shows
  20. Government boosts support for refuges
  21. Marked rise in Northern Ireland’s DA cases in festive period
  22. NCDV offers to assist police with non-DA protection orders
  23. Refuge highlights extent of tech abuse
  24. Council to give paid leave to staff suffering DA
  25. Greater range professionals being trained to spot DA
  26. DA crime rises by quarter
  27. Record number of domestic violence remedy orders
  28. Special DA service launched in Cleveland
  29. UK’s first hub for women DV victims opens
  30. International: better protection on way for DV survivors in Ireland
  31. Read our CEO’s blogs
  32. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  33. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  34. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  35. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  36. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  37. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  38. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  39. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  40. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  41. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  42. Johnson promises new DA bill
  43. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  44. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  45. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  46. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  47. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  48. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  49. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  50. Round up of initiatives
  51. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  52. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  53. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  54. DV orders at all-time high
  55. Campaign Wins Gold
  56. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  57. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  58. OBEs for Encompass couple
  59. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  60. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  61. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  62. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  63. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  64. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  65. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  66. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  67. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  68. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  69. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  70. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  71. DA paid leave gains traction
  72. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  73. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  74. Government pledges support for male victims
  75. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  76. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  77. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  78. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  79. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  80. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  81. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  82. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  83. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  84. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  85. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  86. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  87. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  88. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  89. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  90. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  91. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  92. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  93. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  94. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  95. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  96. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  97. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  98. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  99. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  100. Southwark secures first accreditation
  101. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  102. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  103. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  104. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  105. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  106. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  107. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  108. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  109. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  110. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  111. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  112. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  113. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  114. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  115. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  116. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  117. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  118. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  119. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  120. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  121. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  122. Universal credit criticised
  123. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  124. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  125. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  126. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  127. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  128. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  129. Caledonian System extended
  130. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  131. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  132. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  133. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  134. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  135. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  136. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  137. Public to have say on new legislation
  138. Leicestershire Police
  139. Why do I work for NCDV?
  140. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  141. News in Brief
  142. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  143. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  144. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  145. Grey’s Anatomy
  146. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  147. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  148. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  149. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes
Friday, May 29, 2020
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Welcome to NCDV Online Magazine

  1. NCDV launch ‘Abusers Always Work From Home” campaign
  2. Government cash to help DA victims
  3. Cash help for child victims of DA from government
  4. Lockdown will have ‘devastating consequences for generation’ unless DA tackled
  5. Shops become haven from domestic abuse
  6. Police force works on better recognition of child-to-parent DA
  7. DA commissioner calls for post-lockdown preparations
  8. Increased use of domestic abuse helpline
  9. Police force introduces online reporting for domestic abuse
  10. Government boosts support to DA charities during coronavirus crisis
  11. DA victims ‘can escape during lockdown’
  12. CORONAVIRUS: NCDV Urges Courts to Bring Forward Online Court Order Plans Immediately
  13. DA worries surface amid Coronavirus crisis
  14. Improved Domestic Abuse Bill introduced
  15. Camilla calls for greater discussion of taboo subject
  16. BBFC amends warning for DA in films and TV
  17. CWJ submits super-complaint against police
  18. Call made for perpetrator strategy
  19. Majority of women seeking refuge turned away, survey shows
  20. Government boosts support for refuges
  21. Marked rise in Northern Ireland’s DA cases in festive period
  22. NCDV offers to assist police with non-DA protection orders
  23. Refuge highlights extent of tech abuse
  24. Council to give paid leave to staff suffering DA
  25. Greater range professionals being trained to spot DA
  26. DA crime rises by quarter
  27. Record number of domestic violence remedy orders
  28. Special DA service launched in Cleveland
  29. UK’s first hub for women DV victims opens
  30. International: better protection on way for DV survivors in Ireland
  31. Read our CEO’s blogs
  32. Police face super-complaint over officers’ DA
  33. Groups urge priority for DA legislation
  34. British win in global policing awards for Operational Encompass
  35. Teesside action to tackle child-to-parent abuse
  36. International: UK takes lead on violence against women and girls
  37. DA Bill proceeds to next stage
  38. Scotland to strengthen protection for DA victims
  39. Call for NI rule change to help DA victims
  40. The smallest can be ‘biggest’ victims of DA – West Yorkshire police
  41. Domestic Abuse Commissioner appointed
  42. Johnson promises new DA bill
  43. Domestic violence killings at five-year high
  44. Unduly lenient sentence scheme extended to coercive control
  45. Thousands made homeless by domestic abuse
  46. NCDV in running for Law Society award
  47. Clare’s Law ‘father’ speaks in favour of law’s revision
  48. Judge gives sobbing abuser no sympathy
  49. Hundreds of DA crimes recorded under new Scottish law
  50. Round up of initiatives
  51. Call for action on DA in rural areas
  52. Jobcentres to increase support to victims
  53. DA bill introduced to Parliament
  54. DV orders at all-time high
  55. Campaign Wins Gold
  56. Children should be regarded as DA victims – parliamentary committee
  57. Changing school to be easier for children escaping DA
  58. OBEs for Encompass couple
  59. Government to spotlight family courts with DA in mind
  60. ‘DA survivors put at risk of homelessness’
  61. Theresa May vows to end ‘postcode lottery’ of DA
  62. Courts claim early success in video hearing tests
  63. Closure-threatened refuges in Northamptonshire saved, for now
  64. Volume of DA calls to police force revealed
  65. Dublin includes DA in extension of legal reach
  66. Press regulators back Level Up’s guidelines on reporting DV deaths
  67. Stalking should be treated like DA – university research
  68. Hundreds use ‘Clare’s Law’ in Northern Ireland
  69. Scotland toughens DA legislation
  70. One campaign expands, another makes headway
  71. DA paid leave gains traction
  72. Inspectorate: police response to DA improves, in general
  73. CWJ files super-complaint against police ‘failure’ to protect victims
  74. Government pledges support for male victims
  75. Government urged to redraft DA bill
  76. GMP ‘failed’ murder victim
  77. Scottish council pioneers DA leave in Europe
  78. Ghose steps down as Women’s Aid chief
  79. Government publishes Domestic Abuse Bill
  80. Coercive control is now offence in Ireland
  81. Wales launches coercive control campaign
  82. DA survivors to be offered more support at court
  83. Domestic abusers’ register required – London Assembly
  84. NSPCC urges government to recognise children as victims of DA
  85. Union urges companies to support pledge to stop DA
  86. Government seeks domestic abuse commissioner
  87. GPs may be stopped from charging for DA letters
  88. Cases in Northern Ireland at record levels
  89. Manager describes what refuge means to users
  90. Campaign launched to keep refuges open
  91. ‘Weakness in non-molestation order system puts thousands at risk’
  92. Commons committee propose changes to DA legislation
  93. DV activists feature in BBC’s 100 Women
  94. Scotland joins EU study into DA
  95. Make a Stand signatories top 250
  96. MPs lay out needs in DV bill
  97. DA victims ‘put at risk’ by privatised probation service
  98. Men account for quarter of all DA victims – ManKind
  99. Press watchdog plans DV-related reporting guidelines
  100. Southwark secures first accreditation
  101. DA victims turn to civil courts because of police failings – law firm
  102. Just 15 couples use UC split payments
  103. Early demand for scheme to help DA victims
  104. Petition launched in support of emergency refuge
  105. Smart devices: a new tool for DA
  106. Women’s refuges kept in welfare system
  107. DV victims increasingly denied right to stay in UK
  108. Defendants use system to get DV cases dropped
  109. Number of Cleveland men reporting DA revealed
  110. International: Reported DV cases drop after decriminalisation in Russia
  111. International: New Zealand gives DV victims paid leave
  112. World Cup sparks spike in domestic violence
  113. Ministry of Defence combats domestic abuse
  114. ‘Children face social justice challenge’
  115. Steady use made of Northern Ireland’s new ‘right to ask’
  116. Speedy backing to CIH campaign against domestic abuse
  117. Surge expected in domestic violence during World Cup
  118. Stressed children, a consequence of domestic abuse
  119. Probe reveals examples of children abusing adults
  120. Version of Clare’s Law to be introduced in Canada
  121. Behaviour on Love Island leads to gaslighting warning
  122. Universal credit criticised
  123. Camilla: Why domestic violence is a focus of my charity work
  124. App launched to provide domestic abuse support nationwide
  125. National recognition for Jane’s Place
  126. Spotify deletes two singers from playlists
  127. Legal costs stop thousands of domestic abuse victims securing protection
  128. ‘Clare’s Law’ applied to Northern Ireland
  129. Caledonian System extended
  130. Light shed on LGBT domestic abuse
  131. Domestic violence advisors in front line with police
  132. Force cheers up refuge children at Easter
  133. International: bans on gun ownership for US domestic abusers
  134. International: paid leave, court therapy, lack of awareness, costly social media error
  135. Quarter of churchgoers suffer domestic abuse – survey
  136. First refuge for male victims of domestic violence
  137. Public to have say on new legislation
  138. Leicestershire Police
  139. Why do I work for NCDV?
  140. Sentencing changes: domestic abuse offenders more likely to be jailed
  141. News in Brief
  142. Police force to adopt body cameras to tackle domestic abuse
  143. Scottish Parliament expands definition of domestic abuse
  144. Hull Central policing team collected three car loads of gifts
  145. Grey’s Anatomy
  146. Campaigner Diahanne Rhiney has been given a British Citizen Award
  147. 38% rise of reported domestic abuse – North Devon
  148. Police provide temporary phones to people at risk
  149. Changes in evidence requirements for family private law disputes

For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free service to obtain emergency civil injunctions for domestic abuse survivors. Particularly for me, I am delighted when we obtain injunctions for survivors who mirrored my position, namely I was not entitled to Legal Aid and I could not afford a solicitor.

 

I was a police officer for 30 years, during this time I was in a long term relationship, the last 11 years as a domestic violence victim when I suffered all strands of the abuse that this crime has to offer.

 

I never imagined that the man I fell in love with and married would become my abuser and also that as a result of his actions; I would provide evidence that would send him to prison. All too often we forget that domestic abuse knows no boundaries, it saddens me when I hear “It would never happen to me “ or “Why doesn’t she leave?“

 

Due to the abuse I gradually became isolated from my family and friends. I was embarrassed for putting up with the abuse and increasingly I could not see a way out. As a professional I faced additional barriers. I was fearful should there be counter allegations I might be arrested, as on occasions my husband received injuries when I was acting in self defence. Work became my crutch and I stayed longer and longer at work, being fearful of what to expect when I return home. I started to police my own case, thinking what will the likely outcome be? I thought report something when there are witnesses, sadly when assaults occurred in public, no one intervened. Due to the financial abuse my money was no longer my own, my husband took money for alcohol, gambling and cigarettes , I could not afford petrol for my car and I bought my clothes from charity shops. I could not afford the fees for a refuge, but likewise I did not want to leave my home or pets. I became aware of NCDV; I knew NCDV would have been my lifeline in assisting me obtain Non Molestation and Occupation Orders, although unfortunately at that time they did not cover the area I lived. I was disempowered to go to court myself as a litigant in person.

 

When I first reported an assault to the police, although my husband pleaded guilty I was let down by the courts, as he was not working and not in receipt of benefits due to my salary, I found myself paying his court costs. Without there being other options, he returned to live with me, pleading how sorry he was and that the abuse would not continue. The abuse continued and I then started to keep a diary, where possible trying to cohoborate incidents. I again reported offences; the diary assisted in bringing the criminal charges that would imprison my husband and result in an indefinite restraining order.

 

We divorced when my husband was in prison and yes it cost me a lot financially, but I am now happy and if I am out it is because I am enjoying life, not deliberately staying out being fearful of returning home. My diary now includes something positive each day, it could be the pleasure of walking on a beach, or positive thoughts for the victims who NCDV have assisted that day. Although it has taken me a long time I am a survivor. I implore victims to seek help, not to wait as long as I did.

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